Men and women Anxiety
Women’s anxiety, jealousy and self-comparison or women who are always the worst
Very often women are jealous. And it’s no secret that the lower a woman’s self-esteem, the more and more often she is jealous. And vice versa: the higher her self-esteem (here I mean awareness of her value and not an inflated, imaginary, unjustified demonstration of her stardom), the less jealousy she has. And when a woman sees the interest of other women in her man, she feels nothing more than a threat to herself. Why she becomes anxious is a moment of side effect from low self-esteem. Maybe she is anxious to be without support because she is dependent on her man. Maybe she doesn’t want to be abandoned, it’s humiliating for her. Maybe she is afraid to lose this person because she loves him. But on the surface, there is always a fear of losing the interest of your man and of ceasing to be needed by him. Because all this will be followed by precisely those consequences that will force her out of her physical and/or psychological comfort zone.
All women, arriving in a feeling of jealousy, compare themselves and the one they are jealous of. This makes them crawl into their profiles, look at their photos on social networks and study their posts on the walls. If she is not too pretty, then temporary relief comes. And if she is attractive, knows several languages, and there are no entries in the “TP” style on her page, then anxiety intensifies, and the woman may begin to do bad things and say bad words. Both towards her man and towards the woman she is jealous of. The important point is that in both cases the woman thinks that the one or the other is better than her. Often seeing only a picture in social networks. Even if she does not stand out for her beauty, then a jealous woman will calm down at first, but when she finds a new contact, she will think: “Probably she takes him with something else.” And those jealous ones whom themselves are not distinguished by attractiveness will grin at everyone in general. Indeed, there are still women who catch lovers or just acquaintances of their men and act in a low genre, lashing out with fists and tearing out the hair of those who are a threat to their comfort. And after all, they really do not know that a man takes from others what she does not give. And there will always be those who are ready to give it to him. Not one, so the other will be. And you don’t tear the hair of others, but it’s time to tear it on yourself for a long time, from the fact that you are not able to fill your man and be The best for him.
Women compare themselves to those who loomed in their personal comfort zone. And this happens only for two reasons: 1) she does not realize her value as a person without this man or without a man in principle 2) this value will not come from anything. In both cases, there is no sense of dignity. And it is his absence that pushes him to low deeds. Sometimes a feeling of jealousy arises in those women who have everything okay with self-esteem. And then in a moment of jealousy, it is important not to get stuck in this state and return yourself. When I say “reclaim myself” I mean remind myself of who I am, what’s good about me, why I’m better than others, and what I can do to be even better.
Sometimes men are drawn to new conquests, thrills or a change of scenery. And it just needs to be recognized, recognized and accepted. Having this knowledge, a woman also has the opportunity to think about how she will act if this happens to her man and if such a situation affects her. Arrange a wild scandal with claims, kick out of the house, tear the face of a rival, mark his territory with your presence, torment yourself to snot and a red throat? Or accept the situation, accept your feelings towards it, regain your value (provided that it exists), think about what you can do to be better and continue to live in your rhythm without falling out of self-control? The case and the choice of each. And if low self-esteem does not allow you to get out of the state of eternal claims, discontent, scandals and demands, then well … work. No man in the world is obliged to be content only with what a woman can give him (just as a woman is not obliged to be content with what she is served). Everyone has the right to choose with whom to be and when. But some, for some reason, believe that a person does not have such rights. No one has to be happy that you give him as much as you have. Because in fact, you may have very little value. And therefore, all these reproaches in the style of “you ungrateful asshole” are just an indicator of the level of your awareness and wisdom. And if this level is zero, then anxiety will always turn on at 100%.